Alejandra offers Emotion Focused Couples therapy, individual therapy and child therapy with compassion and patience. She has extensive experience helping others address anxiety, depression and improve their relationships.

‘Narcissist… emotionally unavailable… toxic relationship’… you hear these words and you can’t help but to wonder: why do these words resonate so much with my reality? Does my loved one fit into one of these categories? And perhaps, if you are now reflecting on yourself,  why do I frequently seem to attract this type of person? Is there something wrong with me?  Deep down inside you know that something is off… but you just can’t seem to walk away from this relationship. Something is keeping you there, like a moth that gravitates to a flame.

This is a relationship where you put more effort, where you give more of yourself but one where you don’t receive the same nurturing energy in return. Instead, this person invalidates you, dismisses what you say and leaves you feeling unheard, confused and perhaps even doubting your reality. It is nearly impossible to speak up because if you do, the tables are turned and you end up being the one who is in the wrong, apologizing to this person who is now upset with you.

So you feel like you shouldn’t have said anything and instead bite your tongue. But, there are moments where it all comes out in ways you didn’t expect and you are left feeling a lack of control. This is all so complex! You are selfish when you stand up for yourself, feel guilty when you set boundaries and feel this deep sense of unexplainable shame that you just can’t seem to shake off. You want to keep the peace but even when it seems like you are, you can’t help to feel that old familiar feeling…something is off. You are drained and don’t know what to do. But one thing has become evident. Something needs to change.

Things don’t have to remain the same. You deserve better! A part of you believes this…but there is another part of you that can’t fully take it in. Why is that? Let’s get you the answers that you deserve. Can you imagine this new chapter of your life where it finally all makes sense and your mind can finally rest from seeking answers? Visualize this new version of yourself: empowered, assertive, speaking your truth, authentically yourself and getting your needs met. Something has changed in you and because of this change, there has been a ripple effect that has impacted and improved your relationships. You are now using your energy with intention. You no longer have to prove something to them. You have clarity of mind, understanding and motivation. You are the new improved version of yourself.